As my life changes, I find that my “tribes” change. Sometimes I need to be alone and reflect. Other times, I need a group of like-minded people to bounce my ideas off of. Sometimes I like to connect in face-to-face settings and with the world as connected as it is now, I find I enjoy the freedom of on-line tribes.
Tribes change and need to be re-built as we grow and change. Core-values and friends, I find, remain constant, but there are different group “needs” at different times in my life.
Do you find this to be true?
I have discovered that I can go through my past and see the different “tribes” I have been a part of through my early years as revolving around school and neighborhood. As I grew older, different work environments and social activities defined my tribes. Now, as I have a family of my own, I find myself pulled into tribes revolving around their social lives.
But as I continue to create my own business, create my own life amidst holding down a day job…I have begun to reach out to new people; to create a new tribe based on these new life changes.
Tribes…how do you find yours?
I have recently found that some “tribes” or groups work for a certain amount of time…a certain purpose. But then I need to gracefully leave the group as I change and grow. I find that I am sometimes called to lead groups, and sometimes to follow.
Sometimes, I notice that I have “friendships” that are not really a part of a specific group at all. They are just that, friendships, with a different set of norms.
While some groups are created spontaneously through social or work engagement, the tribes I am looking to form now work best with defined parameters and a specific time-frame. These are working tribes that grow and evolve based on a set of goals with a specific purpose.
Here are the steps I have taken to support the type of online “tribe” I am creating (and needing) now in my life. Perhaps these steps might work for you, too.
1. List out the attributes that you would like to see in your group…what would you like to achieve, to be held accountable for, and to learn and to grow?
2. Reflect on that list and get clear with 3 specific ideas that emerge
3. Which 3 are calling out to be honored by a group setting?
4. How do you wish to connect? (face-to-face, phone, social media, etc.)
5. Form or join a group based on those ideas
6. Create a finite amount of time for this group to meet (both in the “now” and the final closure)
What “tribe” is calling out to you right now in your life? Are you happily ensconced in that tribe? Or are you working on creating your next group to support your life right now…as it evolves?
See what you discover as you create a new tribe!
Looking for an online tribe where you can create and share with others as you discover the simple beauty that surrounds you? I am opening Elemental Observations on October 1…I want to connect with you through walks and photos! A wonderful group has begun to form! Want to join in? Click here for more info and to register!